Why 'Stella' Struggled With Dating As A Successful Black Woman - CH News
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comedyhype.com/ - For this 'CH News Report', CH's Symphony Thompson takes a look at the 1998 film 'How Stella Got Her Groove Back' starring Angela Bassett and Taye Diggs. We look at Stella's struggle in dating. Instagram: @ComedyHype & Twitter: @ComedyHype Written by @NinaSerifina.
So, ageism? Okay sure but, Pride and Prejudice had those same standards; and the lead actress's character was ,18, seen as OLD!!! Difference was that was just consensual that merely expected. Not just to defend it, its how; and still how, society is. Gender expectations. I see no issue of dating after the legal age of consent. Nor, should it. The concept of, 'the Wall' is an interesting one to me because it balances out the perceptions of age and gender. Males seem to have, 'the wall' when they are younger, isn't so attractive, and don't have many resources. That wall crumbles as they grow into their looks and self-confidence; and career & resources. They're appear to almost be magnetic. And women seem to have 'the wall' when they are older and isn't as attractive; or as perceived as such in later years. When younger, they seem to have the appeal of many men; and get beauty privileges that may or may not be given towards older women. I think these gender expectations, stereotypes, and societal presumptions have worked in favor of both genders in different circumstances. I don't agree with it but it seems to be something shared throughout society of the perceptions of older women. I think that maybe should be the conversation instead of, 'why can't older women do it too'? I think that these women who date younger men are already making the difference. However, other things like creating and normalizing these dynamics of older women and younger men. However, in addition to this perspective; and in also mansplaining, that older women should maybe challenge the ageism of the dubbed, ' Invisible Women Syndrome' in society that is possibly and inversely used to benefit older men and younger women; and inversely does not benefit younger men or older women as much. Different cultures: eastern like China: Women after 30 are seen as 'Leftover Pearls' other places like India: Invisibility; while initially empowering, is seen maybe as estranging. One site: theswaddle.com/feeling-invisible-to-men/
"Ma'am... you're average at best"....🤣🤣
That accent was trash...🤔😒
Moral of the story here is to overlook domestic men and cross the ocean to fall in love with a broke undercover man lol
Sorry comedy hype, if you are going this route then you lost my support. I am unsubscribing and not watching anymore of your videos
One more jab at Tay Diggs’s accent for the road😂
Worst Comedy Hype episode ever!
I'm just looking for a black woman period half as beautiful as Angela Bassett
This was a great analysis on the movie and Terry’s real life experience, great work Symphony!
sherri shepard turned down hill harper who went to havard with obama. that type of story is typical
The real Stella got finessed
Doesn't matter how old angela Bassett gets she's still extremely beautiful
black women hindrance when it comes to dating is only looking at black mayles as their only option. looking beyond the bottom of the social and financial totem pole of men would improve black womens chances immensely.
In reality He Used Her! And he knew it like most people who deceive others.
Waiting to read “How Stella Lost Her Groove Again.”
A message to all women, if you want a good man then be a good woman. A degree and status as shown in this video are male traits, learn how to cook and clean and be a helpmate to the man. Be a proverbs31 virtuous woman and any man with sense will be glad to have you as a wife. Don't look for a man if you are already trying to be one.
Dang, from these comments it's seems like black men don't want educated black women. 🤷🏾♀️😔....welp.
IS not that, is just that mosteducated black women think they degree and career is enough
What does this have to do with comedy?
No, she met a guy young male that they both agreed to put up a front where they could capitalize off the relationship monetarily. They pulled a Tyler Perry and folks still falling for it just for laughs while these frauds are banking off you laughing and living a miserable life for believing these lies. We still sleep, this ain't our culture. We use to have a much higher standard and so much more family ties of unity with each other. What did we trade it for?
Ironically, Winston and Tate and Star Jones man were all "how you doin'?"
I just hope she doesn't mess this up with a sequel book like she did with "Waiting to Exhale" Let Stella and Winston keep their happily ever after in our minds.
Is there a double standard? YES, WOMEN ARE NOT MEN! there are benefits to being a women that men will never have and vice versa women need to stop competing with men, everybody got a position to play SO PLAY IT!
Comedy Hype why are you talking about this? Get Kevin Samuels on the show because y'all know who is trending right now. #Godfather
SHOUTOUT KEVIN SAMUELS 😂😂😂😂😂 #BLACKWOMENNEEDTOWAKEUP
One of those _"woe is me"_ videos...
“Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” Proverbs 30:20 KJV
He was gay
They should have done a follow up movie called, "Once Stella got HER Groove Back, her boyfriend Winston, was getting HiS groove on with the boy next door. Had the house smelling like ASS and stuff".
@Lord Bison oooh noo
Yeah, while Stella was getting her Ass Kissed by her young Lover boy, he was getting his ass blown out! Like Riley in The Boondocks: " Nigga You Gay "!
Was it THAT much of a struggle that the only thing "Stella" found was a gay Jamaican?!?!? I didn't even know them niggas existed!
This movie was a complete nonsense fantasy. What does a younger man stand to gain from dating a woman 20 years older than he is (besides easily obtainable sex) when he can get a woman his age that can actually safely bear his children and has no emotional baggage and a better body? The part of the movie where her ex husband is giving the younger man advice on how to keep her happy is so idiotic, it's f'ing laughable 🤣🤣🤣
@coco mo She's a very good looking sista for her age, absolutely. But that's not the point. Your average 50 plus year old woman doesn't look like that. She's an anomaly
A better body than stella???? 👀 cause Angela bassist has a great body.
Allllright... the feminists have officially arrived at Comedy Hype... I knew it was a matter of time. There are VERY few Black spaces untouched by this nonsense
A woman's educational background & salary only becomes a problem for guys that have neither of two mentioned. Guys that are solid & stable could care less because they're on point in life as well.
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Women compare themselves to men so much it's weird. If they see men doing something, it becomes a challenge to prove they can do it to, except paying all the bills in a relationship, of course.
Hell you so fuckin right
So let me get this right a fantasy a lie was some of the best years of her life 🤣🤣
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The double standard is crazy Glad she wrote the book
Jamaica's men don't play with pussy
This entire argument is silly because whenever a older guy dates a young woman, other women are the ones telling him he should be ashamed of himself for dating a child. Women are also the ones asking each other when will you have kids or start a family. Men could care less. So basically women are mad because other women judge what women do. They literally created the double standard
This guy had his own groove he was looking for 😂
Kevin Samuels....calling Kevin Samuels...
Hold up! He was gay? I never knew this! LMAO
Grown people complaining about double standards is asinine.
Exactly... they exist for a reason
Is there any conversation we can have were women act and make decisions because they want to and not in opposition of a man?
For real. Feminism 101. "I can do what you can!!!" It's nonsense
Problem is, most black wen don't look not even close to Stella. And what's wrong with being a normal woman, who knows how to be a wife?
Not tru , you just looking at the wrong women.🤣🤣🤣
exactly😂😂
She liked gay guys
Angela B. Got CAKES
Kevin Samuels has entered the chat.
She didnt struggle because of her perceived success. She struggled because of her prince charming fantasy combined with her perceived failures of others. We know there are sucessful men in her relative scope. Anything not inline with her overvalued personal judgement, she erases him.
Women want men that make their lives easier. Men want women that don’t make their lives harder. Since men control the key to marriage women need to sell what we’re buying and it ain’t your degree or your money. A direct result of knowing or not knowing the answer to this very simple question is evidenced in your marital status or lack there of. Ladies you are welcome.
🗣tell em
Wait - that lady's husband was gay? I laughed in shock, not that it was hilarious.
This Movie was Garbage! And Kevin Samuels would Rip Stella apart! And finish Her off with a Hand Salute!
Salute. Lol #Godfather.
Symphony Thompson needs to stop being so beautiful. With her intelligence and talented, it's offensive. If she ain't gonna marry me she needs to stop playing and not always be so flawless 🤣🤣🤣
Black woman choose street guy's please
Thank you for narrating Ms. Thompson.
This movie wasn’t realistic at all, no one ideally wants to be married to someone significantly other than them unless it’s for financial reasons.
I LOVE HER (the host) HAIRSTYLE 😍
It's gorgeous.
Any brother could have told you that he was gay but when women have ulterior motives that's something that they overlooked
A lot of you black women have unrealistic standards for men or go after the same men
ya dont want that sequel lol
She ended up with a gay dude lol
This will bring out the gender warriors and bootleg Black relationship experts who coincidentally are rarely in relationships with Black women. A panel of Black men (who are actually married to Black woman of all shades) giving their take on this issue would be helpful for inquiring minds.
@Original Man That comment was directed to and for intelligent minds...
A panel? Gtfoh... the court of public opinion is easily metered on social media, so a handpicked (vetted) pool of people that are picked to further a specific narrative. Come on now...
A "Stella" should not exclusively date black men in the first place. The pool of other types of men on her level+ who date interracially is far greater than the extremely small pool of men she's waiting on.
@NEW YORK BIAS2X You can barely string together a coherent sentence; and I don't even need to mention your practically non-existence use of punctuation, atrocious reading comprehension, and no understanding of an allegory. Your stupidity and unqualified arrogance actually prove my point 😄
@NEW YORK BIAS2X sheesh 🙌🏽
Stella’s not real Neither is ur knight in shining armor fantasy. Men are men. Dating a non black man is just gonna get u a non black man who’s still disappointed in wat u lack in decorum and emotional intelligence and other soft skills lol ... stay in school
Lol girls will really blind themselves to anything when they want love. She didn’t know he was gay? This my first time seeing him and I thought he was gay
Come on , she should have know homie liked wearing your panties during the or before the marriage homie got a free green card. Just goes to show money will not bring happiness.. terri wasn’t good enough tommy was
Lol Kevin Samuels would destroy Symphony for this and I love Symphony too much to see that so I can't with this
Black women have an affinity for the help
Most of these black women whom they're talking about are bitter self saboteurs. They invest so much of themselves into things men don't look at or care about then get mad and wonder why they are lonely single parents.
Ha!
Kevin Samuels “Stop right there, stop right there, stop right there...Breathe and digest!”
One of my fav movies! I love anything with Angela though, thats my tv Mom. Everybody says we look alike! Lol🤎
@So Ayanna Hehe 😁🤗
@koolfella 0431 Thank you! 🥰
@a rid97 Hey Angela girl! Lol! 🤗🤗
Somebody lied, you're way more beautiful...!!❤❤❤
I get that from my cousins too! "Hey Angela" "Girl you look like Angela" haha✨
Imagine if they came up with some real topics on this channel.... Another black man diss.... We ain't worthy of being with successful black women, we leave then hopeless... Y'all the real mvp's smh
*Unmute yourself*
He was gay 😂
*Angela Basset* will forever be fine..
Single women raising kids starts a vicious cycle of just that, more single women raising kids by themselves. The boys grow up thinking they don’t need to be fathers and the girls grow up and trying to be as strong as their mother. Always equals the same result.
@Lisette Brown let's be honest. What dude is saying he wants a baby, then bounces? The woman generally, is saying she's having it regardless of what the man has going on. You must be in your forties with multiple kids by dudes that bounced
@Lisette Brown you know we're not talking about couples. Let's not be obtuse. These are unplanned pregnancies we're referring to...
@Original Man just as a woman can choose to have a child so can a man choose to be a deadbeat once tbt child is born. The deadbeat dad trope is a real thing. Too many men aren’t men and don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. If a woman and a man have sex unprotected both need to be held accountable for their actions. Again there are many men who will say they want a baby up until birth then leave. I was referring to those men. Those are the ones who aren’t real men and unfortunately there are many like that. I’m big on accountability. Both men and women should hold themselves accountable. My issue is that often times men just don’t want to be men and leave women to do everything. You are lying to yourself if you actually believe these things don’t happen.
@Original Man you are the delusional one. A couple can both decide to have a child together. Idk what woman hurt you but ok.
@Lisette Brown Your delusions are a result of about 60 years of unchecked nonsense from women, so I'm not even gon blame you 🤷🏽♂️
Terry should've written a follow-up to the Stella story..
@Ed Reid true. I remember Winston's parents being perplexed about the relationship, beyond the age difference
@Nathaniel Davis...I know..Terry comes off as having fine tuned gaydar...not sure how she fell for his bags of tricks..I'm telling you , if she wrote about that journey, it would be a mega bestseller..😂
@Ed Reid remember? In real life terry found out dude was gay
Gus...the building super..😂...lordy...
Yeah. The follow up would have been, once I finally got my groove back, I found out that my man was getting HIS groove on with the building super, Gus, while I was at work. Every time I came home, the house smelled like ASS. Hahahaha
Maybe if BW stopped saying they dont need a man and BM ain't shit, they'd get a man. Idiots...
A lot to unpack but great video from comedy hype
What is this BS. Stop with the personal agenda garbage and focus on hyping comedy. 🤦🏿♂️
👍🏾.... Exactly. They added just enough context to reignite gender wars and doubt instead of showcasing the voices who demonstrate and promote healing and Black love.
We All Still Waiting On Stella Got Her Groove Back 2
@Wordell Johnson I Won't Talking About a Book I Was Talking About a Movie
I do believe she did write a book about it,but I'm not absolutely sure.
I don't really like the idea of getting caught up in a fantasy but my sisters and queens out there deserve to be happy and should not settle for any less!
@Theohybrid you tried intellectualizing way too much. I didn’t make any male vs female comparison
@D Harr Well, I think you're contextualizing that these women all have bad attitudes. You condition would be an obvious one; they probably don't. Even so, some men might like that and thinks of her attitude as something not so negative. Their personality is just very easy-going to tolerate that. I don't think that being disagreeable female is necessarily a bad trait for someone in the same same that a disagreeable male is necessarily bad. I wouldn't personally say that's for me but, I won't deny that for someone else. It shouldn't justify ultimately bad behavior behavior but, some men just want to keep the past in the past and i think the same right should be given to women too who are ready to settle down. Quality people essentially should be with quality people but we people aren't neat and might want an agreeable person or a disagreeable person. Its the compatibility that matters and the healthiness of the relationship.
@D Harr 💯FACTS
Deserve? What if they have bad attitudes? Do they deserve a quality man then? What if she slept around a lot?
Kevin Samuels would call this bs. Stella found the wall and got old
@Ronin Wills ofc men have walls. the only reason they say they dont is b/c well...they are the ones saying it. oh no were very different but were diddy and hugh really with these women....i highly doubt it the way hellyweird is. bleh by my logic diddy sure shouldve have been with lori or any other woman being a p-doh and all. yuck.
@dezinechic men don’t have walls, by your logic P Diddy being like 55 years old wouldn’t have been with Lori Harvey or Hugh Hefner being 80 years old wouldn’t have had the playboy mansion, men and women aren’t the same.
yep just like him hitting the wall and being old with both divorces
Bust through it like the Koolaid man
She was over 40 with a child and as you can see the only man who was seduced by her money was undercover /super gay. A woman’s money means nothing to a man about his business. Women have their preferences and men have theirs... Women owe men nothing and we owe women nothing. Also, you can’t live a “ I don’t need a man!” Life and then when you’re far out of your prime decide you deserve something good...... usually doesn’t work that way.....
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@D Harr and as you see it’s not working.....
They confuse being equal with being the same. Woman can’t live like us. Modern black liberal women reject gender roles
Hold up...that movie was a RomCom? Where was the Com?
Whoopie was the comedy
None at all😆
Most men don't care about a woman's success or college degree.
They think what they find attractive on us is what we find attractive in them. Women often say a mans money is their money and a woman’s money is her money. So why do they think their financial level matters as much to us? Ofc no one wants a broke person in extreme debt but I’ll take a low-income good looking woman with a solid head on her shoulders over a high-paid insufferable feminist any day of the week
I'm surprised at how many women think that just because they have a PhD, a Benz, and make 6 or 7 figures annually it should increase their value to men on the dating marketand qualify them for high quality men, ladies your value to men will always be determined by how good you look, your age, personality, and if you're a single mother. A mens value to women will be determined by what he does for a living, the car he drives, and how much money he makes.😐
Not saying that those kind of men don't exist but worrying about what a person can financially provide to a relationship is definitely more of a female trait.
Where are they?
Of course not...We’re Men!
Kevin Samuels would call this "Bullsh*t".. That 🔥Hot Girl' Summer is laughable,and her real life Winston" went gay' and had sugar in his tank...
Marques Houston: Ain’t that a bitch!
Listening to Terry McMillian, a lot of women ended up lonely and bitter....
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That man was 2021 gay back in the 90s but she ain't know??
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Love Angela but I always found that movie to be vastly overrated..I do love the partial nudity in the film but that's absolutely about it, other than that I really can't tell ya what it's about as I have fell asleep on that movie so many times
It was actually pretty boring Angela and Taye look good as hell in it tho
Yeah it's a good film it's not really entertaining tho
This was a movie. Most men only hook up with older women. We’re not trying to marry them and start families. That scenario is a fling. Older women are more simple. They don’t have unrealistic expectations. All these single young black chicks out here looking for a lifestyle, because social media and reality TV got em programmed, will see one day in 10 years lol. This is about fertility. No younger man can start a family with an older woman. Modern women need to stop challenging biology. And no man should have to adopt or have a surrogate just because a woman waited till she was almost 40 to have kids
Dude just wanted a green card and a check and she was the sucka that gave it to him...
@Carrdiiyaee man you sound like a female, for real
I could've sworn his family had money. They were mad because of the age difference so I don't think it was about the money or green card for that manner
Come on now why she gotta be all that? That sista probably had her guard down and she probably really love him LOVE will make you do somethings. I'm sure love made you look like a SUCKA? But I don't want to say that. But love as humans makes us look very vulnerable to others
Hey sometimes ya gotta get it how you live....which in this case is the case with most immigrants!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😆🤷🏾♂️💯
How long did that relationship last. I'll wait
So in other words most black woman believe in fantasy....yeahhhhh good luck🤦🏾♂️
Dang Kevin Samuels would eat this one up 🤦🏾♂️😁😄
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SIMPLE MATH.......... WOMEN WANTS MEN THAT ARE BETTER THAN THEM BUT IF THEY ARE BETTER THAN THE MAJORITY OF MEN THEN YOU HAVE UNHAPPINESS.
Thanks for deleting my comment
@Cash Crop I’m already knowin bro ✊🏾🙏🏾
@FxrestGxd LaFlare unfortunately we're in the days of Babylon right now. The agenda is to destroy order and embrace chaos. What's bad is good, and what's good is now looked at with scrutiny.
@Cash Crop facts
@Cash Crop they on that bullshit ... a dude in the comments said basically the same thing I did but they left his comments... but deleted mine... mfs hate the real.... they tried to silence Tupac n Malcolm x too from speaking the real
@FxrestGxd LaFlare it had to have been truthful. You know folks don't like challenging narratives that butters their bread.
I sure did love this movie!! I also love Angela Bassett's Husband who played Johnny Cockran in "The People VS OJ" she also did the damn thing in playing Tina Turner in "What's love got to do with it"
@Erica Joh She really is😊
I too,think she is a phenomenal actress.
That dude was gay as all get out.
Yeah I remember that!